I think the biggest misconceptions about romantic love in our society isn’t about the love itself but the path.
There’s this fixation on the idea of finding love, of being worthy or finding someone worthy. There’s an idea of giving, getting, needing, rejecting. Love has been commoditized.
In addition to this, there are also hangups regarding what is normal and expected. Job, marry, family, retirement, and so on. Romance is relegated to a compartment of lifestyle or romance is relied on for hope and a sense of self.
I’m not confused by the people who have casual sex or one night stands. I’m confused by the people who jump from one relationship to the next, yet who seem to be unhappy with every partner. Those are the people looking for a boyfriend or a girlfriend, just a body and mind in a role to be filled.
In my opinion, there needn’t be a thought of “I want a [boy/girl]friend” before actually meeting someone to whom you feel genuine attraction. Otherwise you wont actually see people, you’ll just see candidates.
The mind cannot find love for you, but the heart will always be able to recognize it. We use our eyes and nose to inspect food but we wont know the reality of it until we taste it. Similarly, we can use the mind all we want to make responsible decisions, yet we will not be able to know the reality of love until we use the instrument of the heart.
Personally, I really don’t know if I will be in a passionately loving lifelong relationship or if I will be alone the rest of my life. All I can do is remain open and see what’s what as life unfolds.
In the end, love is never found or handed to you. It is a way of life in which there is continual intimacy with the aliveness in the present moment.
LOOK AT THIS BABY
LOOK AT HER
what the fuck she is conducting along she is like zero and a half years old come on
The stunning sight of hundreds of bright blue butterflies was almost too much for the six-month-old kitten, Lepa, as he bounced over and started trying to catch them. The comical chase was captured by student Natalia Moldovanova in Leningrad Oblast, Russia. After awhile Lepa got tired and collapsed among the butterflies, seemingly in paradise.
|—||Gil Fronsdal (via thebigelectron)|
|—||The Dalai Lama (via lazyyogi)|